Stabilizing Stage

Reasons to keep living

Lesson 4 Section 1

It’s a good time to do those things on your “bucket list.” Don’t let your story end without giving yourself the chance to live your dreams.

If you’ve decided that you have the power to end your life - the most complete life change possible - then you have the power to change many many other things about your life.

If you’re going to make some changes, why not start with the ones you’ve dreamed about for a long time?

“It is hard to be happy without a life worth living…

What is important is that you experience your life as worth living 

– one that is satisfying, and one that brings happiness.”

- Marsha Linehan

How to find reasons for staying alive

There are two kinds of anti-suicide reasons in my perspective. They're similar in purpose, which is why many people put them all together in one group, but they don't feel the same. One category is reasons for not dying, and the other is reasons for living.

In the "Reasons for Not Dying" category you'll have responsibilities, obligations, and fears. Those reasons can push you away from suicide; they tend to be stable and durable. You are likely to be reminded about reasons in this category by family, friends, and professionals. Sometimes reasons in this category are the only thing keeping us alive. However, in my experience they don’t always feel good or positive. 

In what I call the "Reasons for Living" category you'll have joys, delights, fulfillment, indulgence, pleasure, and satisfaction. The reasons in this category attract you towards life, and thus pull you farther away from suicide.

Resources for finding reasons to keep living
  • 329 bucket List Ideas to Try Before You Die: "It is just a series of tasks that we would like to complete, before we “kick the bucket” and die.This is not meant to be a morbid list, however, but a collection of fun ideas to strive for."
  • 1000+ Bucket List Ideas: "It is my hope that you use these bucket list ideas and examples as inspiration to create your own cool and adventurous bucket list...  This bucket list has completely changed my life (for the better, of course!) and I wish the same for you."
  • 10,000+ Bucket List Ideas: This author lists 78 bucket list ideas on her website and she sells a series of bucket list eBooks (which is where the huge number comes from) for about $20. I don't have any affiliate relationship with that site. It's just a more in-depth resource if you want one.

“Why is it that we spend so much of our time preparing for

when we can do what we want, instead of just doing what we want right now?

- John P Strelecky

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