Stabilizing Stage

Let’s procrastinate

Lesson 2 Section 1

With your plans on pause, it’s tempting to immediately try to convince you that things can get better. But we both know that hearing things like “it gets better” or “hang in there” might provide a temporary boost at best, but it takes a lot more than that to make life better.

If I said it was going to be easy, you would know that I was either lying or naïve.

I’m just going to be honest and say there might be hard work ahead. I hope it will be worthwhile, meaningful, fulfilling, uplifting, and possibly transformative work… But it is going to take effort.

There is no need to jump right in after putting plans on pause. It’s a good time to take a break.

“Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions are searched for.
Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us.” 

- Maya Angelou

How to put off the life-or-death decision

Procrastinating… My kids do it when they don’t want to go to bed. My dog does it when our walk is almost over and she wants to stay out longer.

It’s so natural, it might seem pointless to offer guidance. Actually though, I’m asking you to put off doing something that might have some appeal. That’s a bit harder than only avoiding something you don’t like, but I have some suggestions for what you can do instead of working on the life-or-death decision.

Please download the worksheet (I mean "Break-Sheet") below for guidance on figuring out the best distractions that will work specifically for you.

“Play allows us to develop alternatives to violence and despair;
it helps us learn perseverance and gain optimism.”
- Stuart Brown, MD

Resources for Being Distracted

You're not alone. Below are some additional resources to help. I'm not endorsing these resources. Sometimes it's just easier to get started when you get a few initial ideas. Admittedly though, I found myself getting distracted by these sites while I was trying to develop this lesson.

  • - At this website you answer trivia questions in subjects including math, chemistry, geography, vocabulary (English, Spanish, German, French, Italian) and more. Each right answer generates 10 grains of rice donated to the World Food Programme.
  • 5-minute crafts - This video channel has short videos that show life 'hacks', ways to solve everyday problems, do-it-yourself projects, and crafts. There are probably many YouTube sources for distraction, but on this one you can learn a few things while being distracted and with 51 Million subscribers I think it deserves mention.
  • Incredibox - The idea is that you make music by using loops with cartoon guys (or check out what others have created). If you like music, then it's easy to spend time at this site or in their app.
  • Memes - This page has a huge number of memes (humor through pictures or videos with witty text). There are a lot of ways to get some laughs on Facebook, but with 16 Million followers I think this one is worth checking out.

“Procrastinate now, don't put it off.”
- Ellen Degeneres

Why put off this decision? (Click the sections below to open more information)