6a. Telling Other People – Intro

Telling other people

Some people may have noticed and said something. Some people probably noticed but didn’t say anything. Consider how specific or detailed you want to be when talking to them, as compared to being more vague or having excuses. Your experience belongs to you, and you have the right to control who receives what information about your private experience to the highest degree possible.

Sometimes it’s useful to have a philosophy about “white lies”. Here’s mine: I recently reminded a friend that even insects and other animals attempt to deceive each other for matters related to survival (mostly tricking others into becoming food, or avoiding being eaten by another). Stated another way, camouflage is lying.

Now I try not to live whenever possible, and in general I am just comfortable being my authentic self. However, that does not mean that that I tell everybody everything. Communication is meant to be intentional. You are trying to get something across to someone for a particular purpose. If the choice is between deceiving somebody and harming somebody, then you have to weigh those two options when figuring out what you want to communicate.

However, the bottom line is that there are variety of people that you are likely to talk to about different parts of your crisis experience. You don’t have you tell others more than you are comfortable with. Know that your story belongs to you, and before sharing with others, no what your purpose is for sharing information.


Introduction to Communications – https://www.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/programs_campaigns/IECMHC/introduction-communications.pdf

Disclosure – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disclosure

By Dr. Lezine

DeQuincy Lezine is a suicide attempt survivor with a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and postdoctoral training in suicide prevention. He is the Director of the Lived Experience Academy.